Today marks forty-five years of marriage for us. We’re going to go to Hagerman this morning, the gym this afternoon, and then a quiet dinner at our favorite restaurant. We planned our activities today, but yesterday was really the best example of why we are still together.
Yesterday we arose at different times, ate breakfast at different times, and completed our own daily routines until about 9:30. Then we went to the local library where I did a little research while Gary browsed reference books about airplanes, and then we checked out books to read.
Next we went to Walmart for our weekly grocery shopping “adventure”. We make a good team- reading labels, considering items for health benefits, and discussing cooking options. I eat a pescetarian diet and Gary is a “meat and potatoes” guy, with emphasis on the meat, but he is mindful of having a healthier diet.
We ate lunch together, at home. We rarely eat at a restaurant for lunch, and avoid “fast food” joints like the plague. After lunch we watched the birds, read for a little while, and then worked on some projects outside.
Gary drilled holes in a couple of tubs that I bought for our patio tomato plants. I planted the tomatoes and a few flowers. He worked in the garage, but came back to the yard a couple of times to check on me and to see the flowers.
Throughout the day we discussed politics, history, our children, the neighbor’s new project, the local news, our plans for today and our current health conditions. We spent the rest of the afternoon on separate pastimes- I write, he works on airplane models. Finished the day with dinner together, a little more reading, and television…enjoyed Amazing Race.
Just an ordinary day, but those are the foundation of a relationship. If you like each other and enjoy your ordinary days together then it makes the happy “event” days even more enjoyable and the crisis days endurable. We’re looking forward to many more ordinary days together, especially now that both of us are retired.