As a parent of adults, especially adults with children, I am sometimes torn between sympathy for their trials and the overwhelming urge to say “I told you so!” My grandmother was fond of saying, “You’ll pay for your raisin’ girl.” And if one of us was especially troublesome she would add, “And you’ll have twins!” Yes, she had a great sense of humor.
It’s a fact that being a parent gives us an inkling of what our own parents went through in order to raise us. Of course each generation has its own specific problems and each child is unique, but the overall experience has remained the same for generations. You try to keep your child happy, healthy, and safe for about eighteen years and you try to civilize him or her before releasing them to the world. Oh…and you try not to go insane in the process.
If you tell me that you raised your wonderful child without stress or conflict then we need to have a serious discussion about either denial or lying. Some people are more adept at the requirements of the early years and some seem to handle the teen years with more ease than others. But once your child learns to talk there are almost daily differences of opinion that must be addressed. Most revolve around “needs vs. wants” and many end with “That’s not fair!”
Parenting may seem overwhelming at times, but it’s certainly nothing new. Your parents survived and you will too.