I suppose it isn’t a coincidence that “selfie” was the representative word of 2013. Self-centered and selfish are terms that spring to mind as I read about the lives and actions of many other people. If you listen to some of them you would think they live alone on an island! Talk about being in their “own little world”. Thank goodness the ratio of narcissism to altruism seems to fluctuate around 50-50.
We all become too involved in our own problems from time to time. After all our own life is the one we know best. But there is a fine line between solving our problems and wallowing in them, between self-improvement and self-obsession, between self-confidence and arrogance. Sometimes we all need our mothers to remind us of that.
I was a very judgmental child and I’m sure you are quietly thinking “not surprised”. That’s okay. My mother often reminded me that I needed to “walk a mile” in the other person’s shoes, or that the world is not simple, or that everyone does not follow the same rules. That last one was the most difficult for me. Once I began to adopt Christian values I just couldn’t understand why everyone else didn’t do the same. I stumbled and sinned and repented. I spent anguished nights crying about things I had done and regretted. Then I asked my mother why some people didn’t feel any guilt and continued to do things that were wrong! It was a conversation we had many, many times.
It’s a concept I still deal with. I don’t understand how some people can continue to do selfish things that affect everyone in their family, everyone in their workplace, everyone in their community. Working on it mom!