I overheard a conversation at the hair salon that is probably being repeated all over the country right now. A grandmother was complaining that her eleven-year-old granddaughter wants an “xyz” for Christmas and she doesn’t think she needs it or is really old enough for it, nor does grandma have the money for it, but granddaughter really, really wants it…so what to do??? Just say no. N-O. Why are we so afraid of that word when we are dealing with children, especially at Christmas?
I can remember several Christmases when I was somewhat disappointed with what was under the tree. Oh, I got presents, but they weren’t the stuff of dreams. No ponies or fancy bicycles or collector dolls. But I got over it. And I learned that gifts are supposed to be the choice of the giver, not the recipient. Nice to be asked what you would prefer, but NOT a prerequisite for gift-giving, nor a guarantee that you will receive your requests.
I don’t think it would hurt our children to have a little dose of reality now and then. If your child’s fantasies for the holidays are inappropriate don’t be afraid to just say “no”.