Have I told you lately how much I enjoy my husband’s company? We will celebrate our fortieth wedding anniversary next March, but we have known each other since June of 1970 so we have already passed the milestone of being friends nearly forever. And I think we became friends from our first meeting. We shared common backgrounds and interests and values and ideas. Oh, we are very different in personality, for sure, but isn’t that how it is with most good friends? I like to think that we complement each other.
I hadn’t given our friendship much thought lately, at least not until yesterday. Gary has not been off for a weekend since August. Yesterday we got to spend the day together, without any real plans, and it was just great to be together. We stopped in town for a chat and a quick project with friends. We drove out to the wildlife refuge. We had lunch. We went shopping. Yes, we shop together! In fact, on a whim we bought a new rug for the living room and I actually liked his choice better than mine. We bought groceries. We came home and watched a movie. It was just nice to be together and talk and relax. Today we are going back to town to see that ape movie.
In case you are wondering, no we don’t always agree, and yes, sometimes we argue. You can’t live with someone, or even just know someone for forty years and not have some differences of opinion. We’ve had our share of problems and I’ll admit that I am much more demanding of him than he is of me. I’m just a bit OCD about some things. Okay, a lot of things. However, I think that if you are committed to a relationship that is fundamentally good and enjoyable and satisfying, you accept the less than perfect moments as just part of the deal. We all have bad days, so do relationships.
Now that I’ve given this some thought and I’m in a warm fuzzy mood, I’ll cut him some slack for leaving the sugar open when he made tea last night. :)
Be nice to your friend today!